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4 Ways to Keep the Romance Alive During IVF Treatments

August 23, 2017
By Center for Reproductive Medicine in Orlando

Sad but true, it should come as no surprise that couples going through fertility treatments, such as in-vitro fertilization (IVF), often struggle to keep the romance alive.  However, never is it more important to have a connection with your partner on both a physical and emotional level.  Here we offer different strategies on how to keep intimacy in the picture and on how to liven things up a little.

Make Plans:  Even though we think the best sex is spontaneous, that’s not always the case.  Sex starts with our minds, so when we wait for spontaneity and don’t receive it, we’re often disappointed.  So give yourself something to look forward to, and put sex in your schedule! Take it up a notch and schedule a romantic date night with your partner (one where you both commit to not talking about your fertility issues), have some fun, go home (or stay at a hotel), and have some more fun!

Go Outside Your Comfort Zone:  Most couples (yes, even the ones in the most romantic and sexual relationships) can get in a rut.  Throw fertility issues and timed baby-making into the mix, and it’s even worse.  So make a point to spice things up a little and add some excitement to that old routine.  Have a candle-light dinner with mood-enhancing scents or wear different types of attire.  The goal is to try something out of your comfort zone (even if it’s just a minor change) that will add a little zest to your love life.  

Location, Location, Location: On one hand you’ve got love-making, and on the other, you’ve got baby-making.  A great idea is to designate one room in the house for one and another room for the other.  Another option is to book a hotel room or find a different location outside your home when you and your partner are looking for some extra romance.    

The Ginger Jar Technique:  Take two jars, one for you and one for your partner, and put four to six slips of paper in each with different ways you’d like to feel appreciated, supported, and loved.  These do not necessarily have to be sexual (or they could be!).  For instance, if you love flowers, jot down, “Surprise me with flowers.”  Choose how often you want to take an idea out (daily or every other day), and do not tell your partner what you picked.  Then, when the time is right, surprise your partner with what he or she requested.  Think of this little exercise as planned spontaneity which, you never know, could put you and your partner in the mood!

If you are struggling with infertility and would like to schedule an appointment at one of our fertility clinics in either Orlando, Lake Mary, or Celebration, please give us a call at (800) 343-6331.  

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